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904, 2020

Guidelines from the Law Society about family Law during Covid 19

The following is an extract from the guidelines from the law society about family law during Covid 19

Family & Child Law Committee Guidelines during Covid-19

Family law, by its very nature, is stressful for couples whose relationship has broken down. This stress is exacerbated exponentially in the current climate of Covid-19.

A number of issues have arisen and the Family & Child Law Committee wishes to provide some guidelines to practitioners and parents who are encountering difficulties at the moment. Practitioners will appreciate the following guidelines are intended to constitute best practice guidelines rather than specific client advice:


  1. It is important that common sense prevails in relation to access, in the current climate.
  2. Parents must be vigilant to ensure they communicate positively with each other and make sure that they keep each other updated regarding the health of the child/children and their own health.
  3. If there is a Court Order in place, this should be complied with to the greatest degree possible in the circumstances.
  4. If there is no Court Order in place and an arrangement has been working between the parents, this should continue, if possible.
  5. The health and safety of children and family (especially the elderly, grandparents and those with an underlying medical condition) must be a priority. There should be no contact with grandparents and any person with an underlying medical condition. If one parent is living with his/her parents every effort should be made to ensure the grandparents are not put at risk, even if it means access has to be varied or suspended for the duration of the current health crisis.
  6. If a child has a compromised immune system, the health and safety of the child has to take precedence and all measures must be taken to protect the child. The best interests of the child must be the paramount consideration.
  7. Parents should both engage in social distancing and abide by the rules concerning non-interaction with third parties and be able to give assurances in this regard.
  8. If access cannot take place (for any of the reasons set out above) parents should set up a system of liberal contact – Telephone/Skype/Facetime/ WhatsApp – and allow the children to have extensive contact with the other parent.
  9. Innovative ways of keeping up regular contact using technology and other imaginative ways of communicating with children should be suggested by both parents and practitioners.


  1. It is important that clients and practitioners take action in a timely manner if a client’s financial circumstances change.
  2. The paying party should notify the receiving party in the event that he/she is unable to pay maintenance as per an agreement or order, giving the reason for same. This should be done before the payment is due, if at all possible.
  3. If there are solicitors on record, a letter setting out the position should also be sent, perhaps with some vouching evidencing the change of financial circumstances if readily available.
  4. The paying party should consult their solicitor for advice, if possible, as to what might be an appropriate payment to make in the changed circumstances.
  5. This suggested payment should be communicated to the payment receiver as soon as possible, and agreement reached if possible.
  6. If agreement cannot be reached, then the paying party should pay what they are advised or believe is the appropriate amount in the circumstances.
  7. An Application for Breach of a Maintenance Order, (or a Summons for Attendance of a Maintenance Debtor), should not be made or issued if there is good reason why the debtor has varied the amount in the Order.
  8. Applications to Vary Maintenance should be lodged as soon as possible, for whatever return date is given, so as applications can be made to backdate Orders in due course.
  9. In circumstances where the receiving party is in difficulty, similar rules should apply in reverse, considering the paying party’s current circumstances and vice versa.
  10. Solicitors should advise clients and clients should communicate with each other or via their solicitors should they have difficulties with discharging mortgage payments and other joint bills and should again encourage each other to be jointly proactive in notifying third parties of an inability to pay them or sorting out an interim compromise during this crisis.

Domestic violence

If a domestic violence issue emerges during the current health crisis, consider the following options:

  1. Ring An Garda Síochána immediately; and/or
  2. Seek legal advice from your solicitor; and/or
  3. Contact your local District Family Court as they remain open for domestic violence applications (see below).

Child protection

If a child protection issue emerges during the current health crisis, contact should be made with the appropriate state agencies: Tusla or An Garda Síochána.

Pension Adjustment Orders

  1. In the event that a Pension Adjustment Order needs to be made that is time sensitive, an application should be made to have it listed urgently, but only when all paperwork is in order and filed.
  2. Please note that Dublin Family Circuit Court will rule ‘time sensitive’ Pension Adjustment Orders  without the need for the parties to attend. Documents can be posted into Dublin Circuit Family Law Office and will be dealt with by the Judge in chambers on the next sitting.

The following documents will be required:

  • Ex-Parte docket
  • A grounding Affidavit setting out the urgency and confirming the Order is being made on consent.
  • Notice to trustees
  • Affidavit of service
  • Original letter from trustees confirming Order is workable.
  • x 4 copies of the Draft Pension Order

If you have any queries email ‘‘ or telephone 01 – 8886807

Guidelines for Practitioners

  1. As solicitors, we represent our clients. However, we are also Officers of the Court and have a special responsibility in that regard.
  2. Care should be taken with written correspondence. All communication should be constructive, informative and effective. At all times, but especially now, correspondence should not contain emotive or inflammatory language.
  3. Pick up the phone and speak to your colleague.
  4. Do not take your colleagues short.
  5. Even greater care is required when dealing with a person who is not represented by a solicitor.
  6. Encourage clients to co-operate with the other parent.
  7. Practitioners should, as far as possible, keep in touch with clients on a regular basis so as to allay fears and tensions of clients at this stressful time.

Practitioners should check the Courts Service website,, on a regular basis to see updates regarding court sittings and adjournments.


503, 2020

Who gets the family home in a Divorce?

In my work as a mediator for separating couples facing a divorce,a concern is often about the family home.
There are a few questions I ask first to get a better picture of the position.These include the following:

What is the length of the marriage?Who brought what to the marriage?For example was the house inherited by one party prior to the marriage?What other assets are owed by the couple?Is there children?What stage are the children at? Is there any special needs or other relevant circumstances? Who is the the primary caregiver? Is there alternative suitable accommodation available?
Is there a mortgage?What is the amount of the loan versus the value?If so whose names are on the mortgage?
When there is a mortgage in joint names the bank will have to approve the application for the remaining partner on their own grounds for the sum of money in order to remove the other partners’ name.When both parties are named on the mortgage this means that both people are liable for the full sum should the other default.As a rule of thumb people can borrow 3 times their salary and then this is stress tested.
The value of the equity and the house prices are of course key.

The reality is that there is no clear answer to this and the legal advice should be sought on the exact circumstances.

What is clear is that agreeing the matters between the parties is cheaper, easier than going to court.
I have had many clients living with their children in toxic environment with warring parents and neither parent willing to budge. In fact the hardest family meditations that I do are the ones where they are still living together.In my meditation practice I like to keep a very child centered focus and hate to see tactical decisions like not leaving the house cause emotional damage to children.As a mediator my role is not to decide what is fair, instead it is to help the parties to the separation to find a solution that works for everyone.

Susan Appelbe has a law degree and is a solicitor however solely practices as a Mediator and does not give legal advice. The above is nor legal advice and legal advice should be sought. Susan works as a family law mediators for couples facing separation or divorce. Susan works as a mediator with couples dealing with family law issues such as separation, judicial separation and divorce. Susan is based in the Cork area however much of her work is the the counties of Tipperary,Waterford,Kerry, Limerick and Clare.

1111, 2019

The Rights of the Father in Family Law Matters

It was great to see the rights of the father getting considered in the Report on Reform of the family Law System from the Joint Committee on Justice and Law Reform.
Issues raised for men were the poor outcomes for men in the family courts, the poor access to legal advice since they may not qualify for legal aid and not be able to afford private legal representation. Additionally the report mentions the  “winner-takes-all solution in which the man is removed from the home. He may still have to pay maintenance and a mortgage as well as provide for himself.”
My experience of this as a mediator is the relationship can be very toxic with the whole family dragged into the issues. Men can be slow to leave the family home since they feel that it will be a disadvantage to them in court proceedings and a very stressful situation continues until the matter gets aired in costly court proceedings. Access can be allocated by the court in a manner which is totally impracticable for the family. An example I regularly see is access on week day afternoons by court order for the father causing difficulty with his employment.

Dr. Roisin O’ Sheas input was that fathers were regularly seen as the secondary parent. 97% of the time the fathers are the non resident parent

The report highlights the position of the unmarried father and the fact that he does not get automatic guardianship, even if he is listed as the father on the birth certificate.30% of children born every year are born to unmarried parents.

The report is available by clicking on this link.
Susan is a Mediator working predominantly in the Munster area. Susan trained as a solicitor in Bandon in West Cork and practiced for years on the South Mall in Cork City and then in Bandon. Susan now works solely as a Mediator and does a lot of work in Munster counties of Kerry, Limerick, Waterford, Clare and Tipperary.